October 3, 2010

Nora's First Birthday

Nora's first birthday was on Thursday. The day itself was not remarkable, as sadly, I had to work. Luckily, Nora is too young to know any different and we made up for it with two parties this weekend which were both so much fun. It made me feel so grateful for the amazing people that we have in our lives.

I had some emotions on Nora's actual birthday that caught me by surprise. I found myself thinking about C and J a lot and the emotions that I was feeling on that day a year ago. We had so much anxiety and uncertainty in the hospital and I certainly did not feel like Nora's mom, really, at that point. I had the same bitter-sweet feeling that I had the day she was officially placed in our arms by C and J. Very happy for us and feeling sadness over the loss that C and J and, likely Nora, were feeling.

I'm not sure if biological moms feel an ownership over their child's birthday or if the first year is intense for them as well. Nora's birthday brought up a lot of unexpected emotion for me. I'm sure with future birthdays the feelings will be much different.. I'm sure as Nora becomes more aware of her birthday it will begin to take on new meaning. Of course, there are lots of birthday festivities that I'm excited to blog about but, this being an adoption blog, I thought I'd blog about some of the feelings I had on her birthday.

Luckily, I have C and J's email and was able to send them a not on Nora's birthday. I'm grateful for a good email exchange with C and J and I'm happy that we have a date set to see them again soon. And, of course, more than anything, I'm grateful for this first year of Nora's life.


  1. Happy Birthday to your baby girl! Wow a year sure does fly by fast. I know what you mean about how you were feeling bittersweet. It's almost like this thing...their lives...are bigger than we are and so it's humbling to realize what a gift they are and what tremendous sacrifices were made for them to be with us. I'm glad you wrote about this. I know I was super emotional when C. turned one and I will probably always be that way to some extent each year.

    Hugs to you...


  2. Happy Birthday to Nora!

    p.s. Can you delete your cutest blog on the block code? Photobucket has a message that sits in the middle of the screen because they moved all their stuff. :)

  3. Happy birthday to Nora! I hadn't thought about that day bringing back emotion, but it does make a lot of sense.

    And I hope you had a great vacation! In your abundant free time let us know how that went :)

  4. Happy Birthday Nora!!!

    Can't believe she's already one :) So cute!

  5. I know exactly how you feel. I had the same feelings about both of my babies 1st bdays and the feelings in the hospital. Happy Bday to your little one!

    - Lisa