Yesterday was our last home visit for Nora. I've realized I'm going to miss these because the house is always spotless. What else is going to motivate Joel and I to clean every square inch of real estate including areas where no one would ever go?We like our caseworker a lot so there is no longer any anxiety. I'm actually going to miss seeing her. We all just hung out on the floor and discussed Nora as she performed her usual feats on her play mat. When our caseworker first came over Nora was really out of sorts. She's usually really energetic and boisterous and exclaiming loudly. I was a little sad our caseworker wasn't going to see the real Nora but after she woke up a bit she was all kicky legs and excited shrieks.
I of course asked how C and J were doing and found out that C. presented at the last adoption class for the agency. That made me very happy. I remember sitting in that class listening to a birth family present and all I could think is "I wish that would be our birth family". I'm SURE that was the case when C. was presenting. It made me feel very proud of her and happy for her that she's engaged with the agency in that way. I hope that it was therapeutic for her to discuss. It also made me feel some reassurance that she's doing okay. We'll be reaching out to her soon to see if she'd like another visit so hopefully we'll get to see them both again soon.
All is happy in adoption-land. We are exactly one month from our finalization and then the paperwork and legal aspect of adoption will be over. The process has not been too hard on us (other than the horrible wait). I think it was helpful and painful to be with an agency where you are on a wait-list. It's great to see your progress; however, in the months where there is little progress or you don't move it all- that's really painful. I'm glad that this portion is coming to a close. We're now just trying to time when to get back on the list for a sibling for Nora. The wait for a sibling can be 2 years or more. We might not be done with home visits for too long.
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YAY, another milestone complete! I know she has been yours all along but it will feel good to have her adoption legalized and have her be legally yours. I think it is great that C is speaking at your agency. I loved hearing from the birthmoms who spoke in our agency and I even wished one of them would have been our birthmom.
ReplyDeleteIt's great that you are on the last leg of the legal journey...there is definitely relief and peacefulness once you are officially official!
ReplyDeleteI hear you on the sibling thing. We've been thinking about it a lot lately too because we're not totally ready yet but we also don't want C to be 5 by the time it happens!
Melba
LOL! My house hasn't been clean in 7 years!
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear C seems to be doing well.
How Exciting!!!! Congratulations!!
ReplyDeleteWe can totally relate to the house cleaning ritual. We are finished our 3 pre-adoption home study visits and are not sure how our house is going to get cleaned now! ;o)
That pictures is awesome! Nora is just the sweetest thing ever! And congraulations on being so close to finalizing everything - I can only imagine what a huge relief it will be to have everything official.
ReplyDeleteYou're almost done... Congratulations! Nora is so beautiful! :o)
ReplyDeleteCongrats....that's lovely. I can't believe how big she is!
ReplyDeleteYay for almost being done this round! Up to 2 years for a sibling? Ugh. I feel like we're looking at 2 years for the next one. (You might want to look at other agencies...just sayin') Not that there's a ton to choose from.
ReplyDeleteOops, I meant we're looking at 2 years for our FIRST baby! Ok, ok I know anything can happen but we're at No. 32 and it's been 8 months already.
ReplyDeleteSuch a cute picture!! Yeah, our house went down the tubes cleaning wise after our visits stopped!!
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